Have you ever gone through the day checking off the list only to ask yourself, why? Why do I do it? Why do I hang out with friends that don't support me? Why do I work at a place that I don't like?
The first step in the existential process is awareness. Awareness that maybe you don't like the things you do every day. Or, maybe the direction your life is taking is unsettling, and you want to do something about it.
A Call to Action
The second step requires a call to action on your part. Take mindful and meditative steps to find what it is that fulfills you in life. It's through exploration that we can identify new ways of being, thinking, and feeling. Think of it as building a new relationship with yourself.
A great deal of literature by Sam Harris highlights the importance of mindfulness and how we can learn to be mindful in everyday ways. You don't need breathing techniques and a yoga mat to bring your attention to a centered place. You can do it whilst laying down, walking down the road, in the middle of a conversation even.
All it requires is to set your ego free and bring your attention to a central place. It can be an image, and feeling, or a thought. But, keeping your mind and all your senses in the present moment with your chosen focus can do wonders for building an essential relationship with yourself that you didn't know could be possible, but through mindfulness and meditation.
Let Your Ego Go
Our ego gets in the way and overshadows our potential at times. It can inflate like a ready-to-pop balloon or slowly leak out like it's been sitting inflated for months. The goal with mindfulness is not to accomplish a central focus in some type of perfect way. It's an alleviation so that maybe even just getting to the point where your ego stays at a nice slow simmer can make life not so gregarious. When you become honest with yourself in this kind of pure state, your life becomes more fulfilling, purposeful, directional, centralized, and the list goes on.
"It's absolutely stupid to spend your time doing things you don't like and after all, if you really do like doing what you do, you can become a master at it." - Allan Watts
Some existential crises are seen as a child kicking and screaming out of a grocery store. For others, it's an event that you choose. The last thing you want to do is take advantage of the opportunity to build a deeper relationship with acquaintances, friends, family, and most importantly yourself. If having an existential crisis means locking yourself in your place for a while to gain some clarity, then do it. Equally, if it means needing to set boundaries with friends and family then do it. Remember, you are the creator of your life and the story it will tell someday.
Start Your New Future
It’s transformative, transcending, and enlightening in all its forms. Don't be afraid of it, just keep following your intuition. Follow the new future that you desire and don't be uncertain of what's to come if you stay true to yourself.